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General trigger warning for cursing.


No SRS- On the term ‘developing country’


I deplore the term “developing country” as it relates to people in other regions who live their respective indigenous lifestyles. It goes back to that way of thinking that the western modes of life are universally applicable, undoubtedly correct and more advanced/intelligent. People were colonized under this justification that they were “underdeveloped” and thus, inferior and needed the assimilation of western lifestyles. Independent agriculture is no more or less developed than industrialized production of food. Traditional clothing are not backwards or degenerate compared to jeans and sneakers. I wish people would stop casually throwing this term around, its an insidious form exceptionalist thought and imperialism.

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Support to those children of immigrants who are slowly, but surely re-learning the languages their parents and grandparents spoke before their exodus. 


This. I’ve found that Duolingo helps me the most. It’s so intuitive for me, since it speaks to me in my native language. It’s like remembering home.

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I kind of feel like I’m required to respond to this and my answer will be used to determine if I’m ‘allowed’ to leave or not. But here it is: Tumblr was a safe space. You could use it to discuss the things you needed to and had a sense of security. Then the attacks started and marginalized people were the ones whose blogs were being shut down. Trolls and “anti-SJ” sentiment grew. Tumblr security features were lessened or devalued or made harder to use. Then the Theme Change came. The makers thought that gray on white was a brilliant idea, and sacrificed function for form and forced many disabled people to quit. Somewhere in here was the tag restructuring which made only popular posts visible. And now their “community guidelines” have let me know exactly how much they care about my safe space, my ability to discuss my personal problems. I’m done. I’m just done.

By the way, they now have the right to share your stuff without letting you know and for free, same as most popular sites (FB, deviantart, tinypic, etc.).
“When you provide Subscriber Content to Tumblr through the Services, you grant Tumblr a *non-exclusive, worldwide, royalty-free, sublicensable, transferable right and license to use, host, store, cache, reproduce, publish, display* (publicly or otherwise), *perform *(publicly or otherwise), *distribute, transmit, modify, adapt* (including, without limitation, in order to conform it to the requirements of any networks, devices, services, or media through which the Services are available), and *create derivative works of*, such Subscriber Content.”


SRS: Blue
Due to the new TOS and horribleness that’s been brought forth, I am shutting down this blog and all others I have on tumblr. I have read and understand their stuff, but do not agree to it. Farewell! There are still 2 posts in the queue, by the way.


SRS: Yellow

tw: ableist language, ableism, ableist intelligence slurs, racism

Link tw: extreme racism, mention of the many horrors faced by black women

Okay, so I’m a writer. I have characters of all kinds. Bad ones, good ones, morally ambiguous ones, ones that think they’re good but have issues, bad ones that are good to their friends…the list goes on and on.

It seems like a lot of my characters curse people or complain about them. When they do, they use various insults. Recently, they’ve been using intelligence-based insults.

I thought it was okay not to change them to non-ableist versions (like focusing on choices- fool- versus intelligence- id**t) because my characters would be ableist in their worlds. But I was wrong.

[I remember a few months back, anti-racism activists were telling people that you don’t have to use the n-word to convey that someone is racist. In fact, one story I was linked to didn’t mention race at all, and yet still conveyed the racism of certain characters.

I’m not even pretending it’s the same, but I think lots of people (especially Black women) don’t get credit where credit is due. Their activism helped me reach my realization in ableism.]

I was wrong for a couple of reasons. First off, why can’t my writing be a safe space? Why can’t it be the one place slurs aren’t used? This is a fictional world, here. It’s not even stretching it to dis-include those words! (Ironically, I told this to someone months ago on wrtrs. If I find the link, I’ll add it.)

Secondly, using alternative words works to advertise them and make the ableist ones less prevalent. (As an example, I never cursed before high school. Once I was surrounded by it, I started cursing, too. I even actively tried to fight it. But nowadays, I swear a lot.) This may be a vain hope, but I hope my writing helps the alternatives catch on.

Thirdly, I wasn’t specifically trying to portray an anti-intelligence situation.

Finally, but most importantly, even with full tws on my writing, I shouldn’t use slurs. Those get saved for discussions where you need to clarify what you’re discussing, and personal identification.


SRS: White


Financial Aid for Disabled Students


are you disabled? are you in college? do you want/hope to be able to go to college? do you need financial help to make that possible? here are some great resources. 

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Source: disabilityhistory

SRS: High Blue- cost of healthcare in America

tw: money, bankruptcy, giving birth, mention of murdering those responsible

Images: Various bills from hospitals. All have ridiculous prices. (Removed because they stress me and a lot of people out.)




And This Is Why You Shouldn’t Get Sick In America

Many believe that the US healthcare system is the best in the world. Not so according to the World Health Organization’s ranking of the world’s health systems. The US doesn’t even rank in the top 25. It ranks 37th and is the most expensive in the world. I would argue that even if we had the best healthcare system in the world, what good is it, if no one can afford to access it.

Most companies are buying 60/40-policys for their employees these days, but even if you are lucky enough to have good insurance with 80/20-policy coverage, that 20 percent your responsible for can drive you right into bankruptcy as easily as the 60-40 policy given the cost of healthcare.

Insurance cost have been going up dramatically in the last two decades, long before the new Affordable Healthcare Act has taken affect, in some cases as much as 35% per year.

But have you noticed the latest trick the insurance companies have roll out?

Yes, Higher Deductible… most averaging $5,000 per year, per person, but I have seen some as high as $10,000 per year. For those of you that are wondering, this tactic is specifically designed too stop you from using your insurance. It reduces the insurance companies out of pocket liability by shift costs onto consumers, especially those dealing with chronic illness such as diabetes and arthritis. Consequently, because consumers can’t afford the deductible they will avoid necessary care to save money.

Although insurance companies are a problem, the real crocks is the healthcare system it self. A corrupt and bloated system desperately in need of reform!

Lets all agree that health insurance execs will be the first to be guillotined

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"If opening your eyes, or getting out of bed, or holding a spoon, or combing your hair is the daunting Mount Everest you climb today, that is okay."


-Carmen Ambrosio (via asecondchancetoliveonce)

SRS: Pink

(via healthdespiteillness)

Source: asecondchancetoliveonce




I’m starting a new blog devoted to the mental health implications of chronic illness. I’ll be posting about psychological findings and anything related to the wellbeing of us spoonies. Follow me if that sounds interesting to you :)

Disclaimer: haven’t personally checked them out. Proceed with caution.

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Source: ahealthypsychology


No SRS- racism, slavery


While reproductive justice as a term—which specifically speaks to the nuanced issues beyond solely abortion for Black women and other women of colour—is readily co-opted by some cis middle class White women who regularly eschew the complexities of the impact of racism, poverty, disability and immigration status on pregnancy and more, it’s important to think of this term inclusive of abortion as an option, but not solely about abortion for Black women. 

With a racist reproductive history for Black women—one that capitalism was literally built on—it’s important to realize that all of these issues matter in terms of reproductive justice: birth control access and safety, the morning after pill, safe and affordable abortion, information and protection from STI infections, HIV/AIDS awareness and healthcare access, how domestic violence impacts reproductive health access and motherhood for Black women (ahem…Marissa Alexander), fighting State controlled sterilization (has a hideous history and is still a factor), pre-natal care outside of poverty, not being victims of the foster care system that rides shotgun for Prison Industrial Complex for Black mothers, fighting the criminalization of Black motherhood (i.e. accusing Black mothers of “stealing” education), protection of children from the school to prison pipeline and so much more. All of these issues involve oppression at the hands of the State and because of White supremacy, racism, sexism, misogynoir, classism and so much other oppression that Black women face. No matter what choices a Black woman makes regarding motherhood or how privileged she may be, she will face misogynoir at the very least. The fact that Beyoncé and Michelle Obama are regularly insulted as Black mothers reveals long held racist stereotypes that includes praise (but still abuse as well) for the Black mammy of White children but hate for the Black woman mothering her own. 

Even so, many Black women face economic challenges in accessing safe abortion and dealing with legislation that overly impacts poor Black women’s access. But the flip side is that Black women who choose (or don’t choose; this is not always consensual) to have children face endless propaganda from the long held “welfare queen” stereotypes to the “emasculating” (I loathe that word) “matriarch” who “forced” Black men to leave their children. Nevermind the fact that a recent study revealed how Black men are involved with their children at levels that mirror other men and the fact that prison plays a major role when Black men are not involved with their families, which creates a large socioeconomic impact for these families. When Black women face incarceration (the fastest growing group among women), they deal with prisons being exceptionally far away from their families and are less likely to see their children for this reason. As I said and @PrisonCulture said in a conversation about CeCe McDonald’s recent release from prison, prison is violence. “Prison reform” is an oxymoron.

Abortion is not always the specific reproductive healthcare that a Black woman is looking for, but this does not mean that this option should then be controlled by theist cishet Black men (who don’t see the irony in bringing up Margaret Sanger’s eugenics history yet want to force Black women to have children—reproductive control by anyone but Black women ourselves), by Whites (i.e. anti-choice organizations that target Black women) or by the State itself. This really became clear to me watching a talk where Toni Morrison alluded to how the right to have children and a sense of connection to those children outside of oppression is revolutionary reproductive justice for Black women, considering our history. She stated: 

At the time, women who were being progressive, trying to knock down barriers and open ceilings, they were intimating that one of the things that would make a woman free was to not have children. Therefore, she should be able to have access to abortion. And that was understood to be freedom. And I was thinking just the opposite. I never felt more free in my life until I had children. They were just the opposite of a burden. But for Black women, enslaved, to have a child that you were responsible for that was really yours, that was really freedom. Cause they took those children; you didn’t have children; you may have produced them but they weren’t yours. They could be sold—were sold. To be a mother was the unbelievable freedom.

While some women are fighting not to conceive children—which matters—others are fighting to able to, to not be sterilized, to not be shamed and abused during pregnancy, to not live in poverty with that child and to not worry about State interference and oppression no matter what the choice may be. Whether Black women need abortion or need support for entering motherhood, both choices are valid and both need deliverance from the impact of White supremacist capitalist patriarchy on Black womanhood and Black motherhood.

Another major issue in discussing reproductive justice and Blackness is recognizing that this is not something only cis Black women need. Black people who do not identify as “women” can still get pregnant, still need healthcare and still need social and political support. This includes Black transgender people who face unemployment, poverty, and violence at levels that are already high for cis Black people and astronomical for Black trans people. Black people who do not identify within the gender binary may still need reproductive healthcare as again, this is about more than solely abortion for Black people. @DrJaneChi shared a great Storify (Abortion, Trans Inclusivity & The Thousand Vaginas) that addressed how reproductive health discussed as “women” and “vaginas” can work to exclude trans people (not to mention that many of these campaigns, including the one she discussed in the Storify are exceptionally White).

One of the reasons why I mention “Black women” in my title is because that’s who I am, who I target and the social location that I write from. But I too recognize how reproductive justice for Black people is not solely about cis Black women’s needs. Regularly reproductive freedom is painted as an issue that White men are fighting cis White women on where they are victims and Black and other women of colour are simply those who abort. The socioeconomic and racist histories that has impacted Black people’s reproduction are regularly eschewed as the hateful and inaccurate propaganda is splattered in billboards, commercials and political campaigns. And even as cis Black women face this bile as the face of abortion via hypervisibility as marginalization, Black people who do not identify as “women” and need reproductive justice are often invisible. Whether through hypervisibility or invisibility, Black people regularly face incredible stigma in regards to reproductive health and critically need reproductive justice. 

Thus, on this anniversary of Roe v. Wade, I think of the complexities of reproductive justice for Black women and Black people who do not identify as “women” and need this important healthcare, access, and rights. As long as this country remains one where the body and rights of Black people across the board—and Black people who can become pregnant are especially vulnerable—the complicated conversations and fights must be had. Black women’s humanity is not “negotiable” or “debatable” to me. And controlling what we can or cannot do with our bodies—something with centuries of history in America—is never going to be acceptable.

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